Who decides and defines what failure is?
When I am in conversations in Ghana, I hear quite a lot of people talking about mistakes and failures. On social media, I read many quotes referring to the word ‘failure’. Mainly referring to the assumption that living life means that you have to dare to fail. And simultaneously these encourage you to develop a learning attitude, based on which you should learn from your failures.
But why do we have a mind set on failure in the first place?
The concept of failure is hidden in the traditional educational system and in societies. Not only in Ghana, but worldwide. Unfortunately it influences negatively how you think and act. And quotes related to failure only encourages this unconsciously.
An unconscious mind set on failure, is increasing fear and prevents you from taking action. Rather you avoid action, because you already have in mind that there is a chance you will fail. It also causes shame when you tried something that did not work out well.
In the worst case scenario’s, when people already face lack of encouragement and guidance and develop a low self-esteem at the start of their lives, the concept of failure disconnects them from their original nature once they are adults.
They become negative, push other people down or feel the urgency to have power and to control others and every situation, due to their own insecurity. Fear of failure also increases the chance to develop depression or burn-out. But since there is emphasise on failure in society and this type of problems are not yet recognised in Ghana, people showing this type of behaviour are not seen as abnormal, but rather as the status quo.
Next to destroying themselves, they also limit the potential and talent of people around them. My concern is that I meet people with these characteristics who represent themselves as role models in educating and empowering youth. Whilst I also witnessed in actively working with them, how much they contribute to the fear of failure. It is worrying, because these supposed-to-be role models are also in the hierarchical position to damage that same youth for the rest of their lives.
Let me add here that I also meet true role models in Ghana who are the best a young person can get !
What is the alternative?
The Talent Beyond Limits learning concept and methodology is built on principles of faith and belief in the potential of people to learn from every given situation.
It beliefs that every choice you make is a choice that says something about where you are in life. And every experience following your choice has the opportunity to bring you something you can learn from.
No matter what choice you make in life, you will face challenges as a consequence of the choices you make. And you have to learn to deal with these consequences. This means you learn to face every situation and learn to connect to all emotions you feel inside yourself whilst facing these challenges.
We live in a world where we learn to walk away from feelings and intuition, whilst these are you most important compass and guidance. When you learn how to listen to this inner compass – which might be your most valuable possession – you will be able to create the life you want and desire for yourself. And that you deserve for yourself.
Many people just want to be and feel happy, but often we are used to do the opposite of what makes us happy. Or we developed the pattern to go for less than what we deserve.
The more you learn to choose what matches your true Self, the easier life will be. Because you learn to pre-select the situations and people that match your – and universal – human rights, ethics and values. And that contribute to your personal and professional well-being.
Talent Beyond Limits supports you in realising a shift in your mindset, attitude and skills:
- From the concept of failing to the concept learning from choices and experiences (experiential learning)
- From fear to acting and creating opportunities for learning (entrepreneurial learning)
- From shame to proud because you know how to overcome any obstacle (YOU-centred learning)
Read more about my personal experiences with the concept of failure in the Netherlands; How traditional education limits talent